When we are victimized, we can focus on the wrong another person has done to us. This path is negative and destructive.
When we focus here, it will keep us focused on the past, and will eventually turn us into very bitter, negative, fearful people.
Or.... we can look for the life lessons we learned as a result of the wrong someone has done to us. This path is positive and constructive. It lets the wound heal, and we can move beyond the past and into the future."
- Bobb Biehl